What do you say to someone who’s grieving? ChatGPT gave me the answer — almost.

You know, recently the mother of my friend Yuki passed away. I wanted to send her my best wishes for Easter, but it’s tricky to wish someone a “Happy Easter” when they’re in mourning.

Luckily, we have ChatGPT these days.

So I explained the situation and asked it to come up with a message that would feel appropriate.

ChatGPT gave me three options:

1. “I’m thinking of you these days. Take good care of yourself, especially during Easter.”
2. “I know this period is especially hard for you. I just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you, especially during Easter. If you feel like talking or spending time together, let me know.”
3. “I wish you peaceful and loving Easter days. I’m thinking of you.”

This is what I ended up sending:

"I’m thinking of you today. Wishing you lots of strength during these days. Feel free to call me if you want to talk."

I always feel a bit uncertain in situations that require diplomacy or tact. In moments like that, I’m glad I can turn to ChatGPT. But I try to see it as a source of inspiration, not something to copy word-for-word. That could easily backfire. 

Tone matters… c’est le ton qui fait la musique!

For example, I don’t really see why I’d say, “Take good care of yourself, especially during Easter.” Why especially during Easter? Why then in particular? Yuki would know that this isn’t how I would phrase it.

Option two is way more wordy than I would sound. If I had copied it straight into WhatsApp, I can imagine Yuki wondering if it was really me texting her.

Option three is closer, but I don’t usually use words like “loving” in this kind of context. Also, I wanted to make it clear to Yuki that I’m available if she wants to talk. 

Not too long ago, I went through something impactful myself, and I know how strong that need can be — and how isolating it feels when there’s no one around to talk to.

That’s why I promised myself back then to be there for others when they need a listening ear or some support.

So, ChatGPT is a good starting point — but not always the end point. At least, that’s my take.

What about you?

Do you turn to ChatGPT in situations like this? Or do you stick with your own words — even if they’re not “perfect”?

Maybe this is one of those moments too: when you’re not quite sure what to say. I’d love to hear how you handle that — leave a comment below.

And if you think someone else might relate, feel free to share this article with them.

Happy Easter!!

Photo: Anita Austvika